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 FOOD FOR THOUGHT 

Something I'm seeing since the tragic passing of Charlie Kirk that I'd like to share my thoughts on....

 
A constant question being asked in my "interweb feeds".... "Where was the outrage for Melissa Hortman and her husband? Where was the outrage for children killed at school? Where was the outrage for (insert any other life lost in tragic, preventable scenerios)?"

The implication? That the grief people feel now is somehow unjustified because it isn’t equal to grief for others.
Here’s the truth: outrage is human, not mathematical.
We don’t measure grief on a scoreboard.
It’s shaped by MANY things, and in this case it's being shaped by proximity, connection, visibility, and what we witness.

I still think those are valid questions that are being asked, however - because EVERYONE'S questions in times like this are valid... So, if I could give an answer it would be simply in the form of a request to consider these things:

1) CONNECTION changes EMOTION.
We always grieve harder when we feel connected.
I didn’t mourn my grandfather when he passed (we weren’t close). But my grandmother’s passing still breaks me 15 years later.
Just as an example, most of America had never heard of the Hortmans until tragedy struck. But Charlie Kirk - love him or hate him - was in our feeds daily. That presence makes his loss feel more personal, even if you never met him.
It’s the same reason we mourn a close friend differently than a stranger. Both lives matter equally, but one hits our hearts differently. It’s absolutely NOT that one life is worth more, it’s just that our CONNECTION to people shapes our emotions.

2) We WITNESSED IT.
This wasn’t just news.
Millions literally saw it happen.
The violent death of a public figure, in front of his family, replayed everywhere. That kind of trauma doesn’t just land in your head, it lands in your body. That absolutely changes everything about how it effects us.
Imagine getting a CALL that your loved one has passed, and compare that to WATCHING it happen. You would undoubtedly have a different reaction, process things differently, experience a set of emotions more viscerally. Your grief still exists in both situations, but very likely amplified in the one that leaves an image in your brain for forever.

 
3) IT'S BEING CELEBRATED.
I don’t recall people celebrating the deaths of Melissa Hortman and her husband, or schoolchildren who were supposed to be in a safe space.

 
But there are millions of comments celebrating Charlie’s. That alone fuels a heightened response. Social feeds are flooded with mockery and cheers. That intensifies the outrage.

No one grieving Charlie is saying his life was worth more than anyone else’s. But millions online are saying...even celebrating...that his life was worth less.

People aren’t “hypocrites” for reacting differently. Different circumstances create different emotions. That doesn’t mean one life is more valuable. It just means we’re human.

The real sickness is in the voices that cheer death, that devalue life, that call evil “justice.”
Grief isn’t math. We feel it differently depending on connection, visibility, and how tragedy unfolds.

But what should unite us all is this: violence is never ok, and celebrating it is poison to our humanity.

Pray for our nation.
Pray for the victims and families of ALL of these crimes.
Pray that hearts are softened and humanity restored.